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Becoming A Man In Bed, In Love, & In Life

 

Some of you may know Quddus Philippe from his early years as a VJ on MTV’s TRL.  These days, he and his partner in life and love, Carmina, are cofounders of a personal development and media training company called Camera Ready. 

When I first sat down with Quddus, I didn’t really know where the interview would go.  He’s a super fascinating guy with so much charisma and so many riveting stories, that I just left it wide open.  But as the conversation unfolded and he shared things like navigating sexuality as a young tv star to moving past childhood trauma so that he could cultivate more depth and sensuality in his marriage, it became clear that our conversation would, in some sense, encapsulate a widely relatable journey towards modern manhood.

You can follow Quddus on Instagram at @quddus, and his company Camera Ready at @cameraready.

 

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Parenting, Partnership, and Porn with Erika Lust & Pablo Dobner

With artistic vision and feminist values, Erika Lust is at the forefront of today’s sexual revolution, confronting the mainstream porn industry with a sex-positive, erotic and cinematic alternative, and reclaiming the cultural discourse surrounding women’s sexuality.

In this episode, I chat with her and her partner in love and in business, Pablo, to discuss their love story, what it’s like to work with a spouse, to be at the forefront of the indie adult cinema movement, to have the porn conversation with your children, and how a world with better porn--written and directed by women--can change our relationships and our lives.

To learn more about Erika, check out erikalust.com.

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A Town Hall About Identity, Virginity, & Group Sex

The first time she experienced oral sex, she was fourteen years old and her lover didn’t speak a lick of english; he wasn’t ready to fully acknowledge that he was gay until he had his first gay experience, and so one night, he just went for it; she wanted to give her partner a birthday he would never forget--”so why not group sex,” she thought; Plus, Dr. Zhana drops some knowledge about the significance of first times, jealousy, and more.

It’s all that and so much more in the final touchpoint town hall of 2018.

Hosted by Jared Matthew Weiss.

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You can find Dr. Zhana at @drzhana on Instagram and at drzhana.com.

Getting In Touch With Your Fantasies

Alan Alda once said, “Your assumptions are your windows to the world. Scrub them off every once in a while or the light won’t come in.”

With that in mind, I have one question: what do you imagine when you think of a dominatrix?

I don’t know about you, but I don’t immediately think of a former elementary school teacher who got her PhD in education from Berkeley and writes a popular blog around spiritual and personal growth.  After all, those aren’t the kind of details we’ve been told around people who pursue sex work.

But that’s exactly what I discovered when I met, Colette Pervette, a professional dominatrix who has dedicated her life to dispelling assumptions around sexuality, identity, and the human condition.

In this episode of Touchpoint, she walks me through what would be my first consultation as a new client, she challenges many of my assumptions around things like getting kinky, sex work, and fantasies, and ultimately draws a profound parallel between buddhism and her work with BDSM.

To learn more about Colette, you can go to pervette.com.

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A Chat With Lindsey Metselaar from We Met At Acme

In between town halls, we’ve decided to start releasing episodes where Jared chats one-one with inspiring people about the things they’ve experienced in bed and in love.

In this first one-one-one, Jared talks with Lindsey Metselaar, host of popular dating podcast We Met At Acme. After pulling five cards from touchpoint’s “sex tarot,” Lindsey shares about how fighting can sometimes be her foreplay, her first (and only) time exploring anal sex—in her parent’s bedroom, her innovative ways to masturbate, how she found love online, and so much more.

You can follow us on Instagram at @lovetouchpoint and get tickets for an upcoming Town Hall at lovetouchpoint.com/tix.

Watching Porn: Inspiring for Couples, Sometimes Healing for Survivors, and Better When Produced by Feminists?

Watching gay male porn helped her heal from sexual trauma;her boyfriend brought her to a porn cinema in Montreal and they were directed to the upstairs balcony where couples can practice what they watch on screen; after a lifetime of masturbating to porn, one night, he decided to skip it and run a bath instead, and you’ll never believe what happened; Dr. Zhana drops some surprising stats around who watches porn and how it affects their sex lives; plus, a vulnerable and entertaining performance from award-winning poet, Max Stossel.

It’s all that and so much more in this inspiring episode of the touchpoint town hall.

Hosted by Jared Matthew Weiss.

Recorded in NYC on October 9, 2018 at The Assemblage Nomad.

For tickets to an upcoming touchpoint town hall in NYC, go to lovetouchpoint.com/tix

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You can find Dr. Zhana at @drzhana on Instagram and at drzhana.com.

You can learn more about Max at wordsthatmove.com

Sex Under the Influence: Escape, Exploration, & the Search for Connection

She never knew she was only a few puffs away from finally enjoying oral sex; the first time he had sober sex, everything was illuminated; a few years into their relationship, they discovered eating a special treat before bedtime could lead to some playful new beginnings; on their third date, they went on a “bad trip” that ultimately brought them closer than they ever could have imagined. Plus, Dr. Zhana, our new Sex Educator in Residence, drops some knowledge about the latest research on the usage of drugs and alcohol in bed.

It’s all that and so much more in this funny, insightful town hall about sex under the influence.

Hosted by Jared Matthew Weiss.

Recorded at the touchpoint town hall in NYC on September 11, 2018 at The Assemblage Nomad.

For tickets to an upcoming touchpoint town hall in NYC, go to lovetouchpoint.com.

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You can find Dr. Zhana at @drzhana on Instagram and at drzhana.com.

Great Sex: Sometimes With Toys, Sometimes In Groups, Sometimes With Love, but Always With Emotional Intimacy

She found herself tied to a wall in a basement having the best sex of her life; he met a hot guy at a party, brought him back to his place, got undressed, and quickly realized that some significant parts were missing; he made love to a virgin and it was unforgettable; she went to an all-female sex party that ended with a free burger and a ride home.

 

Without further ado, we give you the the town hall about great sex.

 

Hosted by Jared Matthew Weiss.

 

Recorded at the touchpoint town hall in NYC on July 10, 2018 at The Assemblage Nomad.

 

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Open Relationships: A Way to Discover Yourself, Other People, & Possibly A Unicorn

She joined a couple in bed as their “unicorn” and realized that polyamory could be fun--for two weeks, his wife had sex with a man with a “much much bigger penis” and they had to talk through it, she moved in with a new girlfriend after the first date and cheated like mad until fully embracing her non-monogamous orientation once and for all.

It’s all that and more in this emotional, and often funny conversation about open relationships.

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Hosted by Jared Matthew Weiss.

Recorded at the touchpoint town hall in NYC on June 5, 2018 at The Assemblage Nomad.

For tickets to an upcoming touchpoint town hall in NYC, go to lovetouchpoint.com/tix.

Follow us on Instagram at @lovetouchpoint

Big love to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova for joining us in the circle this month, sharing her story, and even giving us a short lesson about consent.

Oral Sex: Giving, Receiving, & Believing We're Worthy

She responded to a text at 4am and discovered that her body was capable of magical things, he always was the giver until he realized that he too was worthy of love, unlearning shame from a catholic school upbringing started with her going down on a female friend as an adult.

"Some people say I use too much teeth."

"The wetter the better."

"He was like Steve Jobs in bed.  He knew what I wanted before I knew what I wanted."

"I experienced the fabled throat orgasm."

It's all that and more in this revealing, insightful conversation about oral sex.

Hosted by Jared Matthew Weiss.

Recorded at the touchpoint town hall in NYC on May 1, 2018 at The Assemblage Nomad.

For tickets to an upcoming touchpoint town hall in NYC, go to lovetouchpoint.com/tix.

Follow us on Instagram at @lovetouchpoint.